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What to do if the child is always on the phone

Nomophobia-a disease of the 21st century
Why can’t children give up their smartphone?
The student depends on the phone – what to do?
Practical tips for parents from a child psychologist.
Tablets, phones and other gadgets have become so much part of our lives that we no longer remember what it was like before. And the children just don’t know it. What should I do if my child is constantly stuck on the phone?
A teenager does not understand how to manage time without a gadget. These cases are common.

Nomophobia-a disease of the 21st century:
This is the fear of being left without a mobile phone. It is increasingly common among people.
Phone addiction is getting younger at a tremendous rate. Children get used to it much faster than adults!

Signs of nomophobia:
A person is annoyed if they do not have access to the gadget, they are constantly around
Checking notifications immediately after an alert
Broadcast all actions in the social network. networks and constant monitoring of the reaction
Strong irritation when asked to turn off the phone and frequent ignoring of such a request
The euphoria of being online. I always want to look through the feed on the Internet
Loss of contact with people around you
Deterioration of the General mental state, aggression, irritability
The danger of depending on your phone:

Changes in the brain. Memory and ability to concentrate deteriorates.
Mobile causes high fatigue and fatigue.
When you hold your attention on the screen, there is a decrease in the number of blinks, and dryness of the cornea of the eye. This is fraught with inflammation of the eyes, deterioration of vision.
The body is adversely affected by electromagnetic waves. They cause dizziness, irritability, nausea, and an increase in body temperature.
Of course, the devices are getting better and better. But do not forget about it. You can not keep your smartphone near infants and young children.
Withdrawal from reality, loss of contacts, poor development of communication skills.
Why can’t children give up their smartphone?

There can be many reasons. Here we will tell you about the most frequent of them.
So used. Since childhood, so that the baby did not cry, his hands were occupied with a gadget.
As parents. Copying the behavior of mom and dad is a standard cause of the problem.
I’m afraid or can’t communicate. And in the network – not terrible. There communication is different, more secure. So it seems to children.

Take a short test and find out if your child can communicate

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I don’t know what to do. Time should be structured. Nothing to do – I will play.

Schoolboy depends on the phone – what to do?
Of course, you can’t ban mobile phones at all, and you don’t need to. It is worth working to ensure that the teenager uses it correctly. And prevent the development of addiction. And if you notice a problem, try to fix it.

Bad is not the gadget itself, but a total passion for it or whatever it is. Even binge-reading books.

It is important not to forbid, but to teach you how to manage. So that the gadget is in the service of the child, and not Vice versa.

There are strict rules that must be followed:

Before going to bed (at least 1 or 2 hours before), do not use the gadget. This will help the child restore the nervous system and ensure normal as well as full sleep;
Restrict the gadget from eating. You can just communicate. Useful and pleasant.
These rules are useful for children and adults. Your example is important.

Practical tips for parents from a child psychologist.
Today we will look at how to help your child become the owner of a gadget.

Stage 1. Preparation.

Child psychologist Natalia Lomellina

Determine how much time a child can spend with a smartphone.
Answer the questions: how long? With what devices? It is important to you, what exactly does the student do? Or does only the actual hours and minutes play a role?
Understand why you, as a parent, need to restrict the use of the gadget. Determine why the restriction is necessary for the child? Let the student answer this question. The real answer is important here, as it is at the beginning. Even if the child believes that it is absolutely not necessary to introduce prohibitions and restrictions.
Do you have a support group? Are your family and friends ready to maintain a unified policy of working and dealing with the problem?
How you regulate for yourself how much you spend with an electronic device. Children often copy their parents ‘ behavior. If you “hang” in your smartphone, then you should start with yourself.
Important. If you do not use the gadget, you will have free time. What should I do with it? Useful? Pleasant? Nothing by non-doing?
The task of parents to organize life without a smartphone leisure.

You can find out from the child how he is going to do it. I mean, ask him. If he wants to lie in bed and dream instead of playing on the phone – your reaction? Will you be happy? Will you want to occupy it with something useful? Will you be understanding or annoyed?

This is often the case. The gadget was taken away, and then the parents start complaining. The reason is that he doesn’t want anything and doesn’t do anything.

By transferring your child’s attention from an electronic device, you want to:

To preserve his health?
Do you want him to manage his time productively? Move from virtual space to real space?
Teach the gadget to serve him for good, not for destruction?
Or what else…?
Stage 2. Conversation.

It may be a conversation about your concern for him. And you will give the facts that concern you. Tell us about your feelings and the problems that can occur when you use your smartphone without control. Be honest with me.

Find out the student’s opinion on this issue.

Introduce him to the concept of “norms”. It still exists. No more than 1 hour for children under 10 years of age.

The student may not agree with you. Often children say that there is no problem. Then suggest an experiment. Keep a diary of the gadget.

A big plus, if the parent will keep their own diary. Of course, with adult norms.

Stage 3. Diary of the gadget.

Keep a diary. In it, the teen will record the number of requests to the gadget. As well as the time he spends playing games, searching for information.
Use the diary for a few days and analyze the result.
Now determine the desired result.
Determine the reward for achieving the result and act!
Example of an agreement:

Reduce working hours with the gadget. For example, up to one hour a day.
In working with the eyes-reading it, or gadgets it is important to take a break for the eyes. Optimal – 30 minutes of work for 5 minutes
Here the parent’s task is to show that real life is more interesting than virtual life.

The child will have free time. It must be occupied. He doesn’t know how. You will not be overseers, but support and helpers. “I’m worried about your health. I know it’s hard for you, so let me help you.!”This is what is important for a child to hear. Just don’t yell at your daughter or son: “Put the phone away!»

And remember-a new habit is developed in 21 days. Everything is possible with a methodical and systematic approach. Have the patience and resources to support and help.

You can always ask me a question or make an appointment for a consultation.

Good luck and patience! You will be close to your children, love them and help them!

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