Education of 15-year-olds
Each period of a person’s life is unique. Adolescence is no exception. In this article, we will help you better understand your child. This is the right way to restore harmony in the relationship between parents and children.
Stages of adolescent adulthood and what they are accompanied by
Most specialists divide this age into 3 stages. However, you need to know that every child is individual. We can not say that stage 2 will end exactly in 14 years. It can end at 13 or 16.
Stage 1-from 11 to 14 years. Transition to adolescence. A strong influence on the child has a coach, teacher – that is, significant adults, but not parents. Children tend to combine interests and join groups.Stage 2-from 14 to 16 years. Senior teenage years. Active physiological changes, the desire for self-determination and self-search. A large influence is exerted by the group and the opinion of peers.
Stage 3-from 17 to 20 years. Youth. Almost grown-up people choose their own life path.
What happens to my teen at fifteen?
Does he slam doors? Rude or rude? Not listening? Change your mood often? The horror!!! No, this is not a mistake of your upbringing. Your child just became a teenager.
During this period, hormones affect the emotional state of the child, and he does not always manage to control himself. He doesn’t understand himself or the world around him. For some guys, this is incredibly difficult. Pressure, especially at home, will only make things worse.
In addition, a fountain of uncontrollable emotions, complexes, poor health, the desire to stand out and the simultaneous understanding that you are worse, and not like everyone else.
And this is not ” bad behavior.” These are active mental and physiological changes that are not easy to cope with! Can you imagine how difficult this is for a teenager?!
There is sympathy for the opposite sex. Most of them already have partners or pretend to have.
The desire to assert yourself with stand out. Be cool, prove that you’re worth something. Ways sometimes do not matter, especially if the child is in “bad company”. But there is a separate article about this on our website.
A sense of” belonging ” to something. Subculture, company, sports section – you have to be with someone. Well, or against everyone.
Desire for recognition. The desire to be perceived as adults.
I washed myself off. A teenager tries to understand the world, how it can be different, not like in the family. He begins to search for a different morality, a different life, a search for himself. He must understand how the world works and how he wants to live. He has the courage to do something different, to go beyond the boundaries in order not to live like his parents.
What parents of a teenager need to know
Here are some tips from psychologists for parents
You should understand
The goal of adolescence for both boys and girls is separation from their parents. No matter how difficult it is for you, you have to accept it. Especially since you already experienced this when your baby was 3 years old.
Calmness and patience are your weapons.
Remember about hormones. It is difficult for a teenager to control his emotions. It wasn’t a teenager who screamed, it was hormones, and they slammed the door as well. In General, most emotional steps are made by hormones. Put up with it? No, explain to the child what is happening to him. Help him control himself, or better yet, show him by example. And even more effectively, offer them courses in emotion management.
Set and observe boundaries.
The teenager will try to understand what he can allow and what he can’t. Be calm. But do not try to “compress” the borders, for fear of losing control. Show respect, don’t let him and myself to speak disrespectfully to communicate.
Don’t make a scene.
Wait for 20-30 minutes, go outside or go to another room, calm down and then speak calmly, without provocation. It will be better for both you and the child
Don’t be afraid of changes.
He must not see the world as you see it. Let your child try to be different. Go to another company or go to some section. Nothing terrible will happen.
Explain that emotions are normal.
Feel so much, cry or change your mood. It doesn’t matter if you are a boy or a girl – there is no difference.
Support them in their desire to be themselves.
Stand out, listen to popular music or Vice versa, do not listen to it, dress the way you want, no matter how fashionable it is or not – this is also normal and very good. To not be like everyone else. Being yourself is wonderful! Show that it is beautiful
And not as a child, but as an adult. Be interested in what your child likes, if necessary, read about it on the Internet. Spend time with him. Stay on the same page. Show your interest, but don’t impose. After all, during this period, for them, communication with friends is an integral part of life for most teenagers.
Consult with him so that he can make decisions.
Learn to think, reason, and highlight the pros and cons.
Understand that they are still children. They can’t control themselves. Help them and make allowances. Forgive them.
Love and support.
It is important for a teenager to know that you love him. Always. But if a teenager does not like to hug, do not hug, find another way to Express love, if he does not like something, then do not do it. It can be time dedicated to him, gifts, hugs, the words “I love you”, “I am glad that you are my (I) son or daughter”, “I am proud of your actions”.
“The child most needs your love just when he least deserves it.” Erma Bombeck
Never compare children with each other or with other children.
Try not to protect someone from during an argument. Let them learn to stand up for themselves, make mistakes, and figure things out on their own
Don’t try to be perfect.
After all, you are also a person, but if you were wrong, ask for forgiveness and admit it. This will strengthen your relationship and help your child communicate with other people
Falseness leads to misunderstanding and irritation. They are very good, better than you seem to feel the insincerity
Raising a 15-year-old boy and a 15-year-old girl-what are the differences?
Physiology. In 15, the physical differences between them are already clear. At a young age, you need a significant adult of your own sex, whom they trust in order to correctly explain the essence of physical changes and teach them to live with them. If a teenager does not have such an adult in a close environment, he will find authority on the side, and what this person will turn out to be is not clear to anyone. Of course, there is enough literature on this topic now, and the Internet is freely available. But how the child will interpret the received information is unknown.
Prospection. The main thing that parents need to remember is that the boy becomes a man, and the girl – a woman. It is important to maintain and develop the qualities they need in the future. The example of women and men, their relationships with each other, which the teenager sees, is of great importance.