Poor memory in a child
Poor memory in children is not uncommon. What should parents do if they notice problems with their child’s memory?
First, we should say that this is not a verdict, as many parents think, based on very strange arguments. No. If you work with your child, do not give up and believe in him, everything will definitely work out!
Now, from the beginning.
Memory formation in children.
“We all come from childhood” is a good phrase that many psychologists love.
And this phrase is not only about our psyche, some complexes and so on. And about physiology in particular. But more on that later.
Many scientists and experts argue about when a person has memory. Some claim that even before birth and the child remembers everything that happened during the prenatal period of life-however, this memory is unconscious-others say that the child begins to remember anything by the age of three.
But according to the opinion accepted by the majority of the scientific community, memory begins to form around the age of 9 months.
Until this time, the child is not particularly interested, relatively speaking, where the toy that parents just held in their hands has gone. The kid just forgets about it. But from this age begins to manifest conscious memory, gradually developing the ability to remember – this is due to the fact that the volume of the child’s brain reaches a minimum value for the “activation” of intelligence.
Features of children’s memory
“Well memory is like memory, think of it! I still remember more and better, I’m an adult ” – you will say and be wrong.
One of the main features of children’s memory is that children remember better than adults!
And all because they do not break the event and emotions associated with it, so their impressions are brighter, which means that children remember everything that happened to them for a long time. Sometimes childhood memories accompany us all our lives.
It follows that parents should often think about what emotions you fill a particular activity for your child. Especially when it comes to training. Because if you once shouted at a child in childhood, strongly scolded him in the process of studying, relatively speaking, English, then do not be children remember he brings God forbid three marks in this subject from school.
He associates (though perhaps on a subconscious level) learning English with something unpleasant, he does not like these feelings, he tries to get rid of them somehow. A common solution is not to learn English.
So, parents, try to control yourself.
The second very important feature-children up to a certain age are not able to think consciously.
They simply perceive all the reality around them. And they perceive it very well, because for them almost every new day, or rather, all the events that occur during it, are new. They are open to everything new.
A child has a bad memory-signs and causes
“So if you are saying that children remember everything perfectly, then why is my child not like this?»
Here are the 7 main reasons for a child’s poor memory.
And this is probably one of the worst reasons, because it can be very difficult to cope with it.
In early childhood in the life of a child, something very serious could happen, and this caused poor memory in principle or lead to selective memorization.
In this case, do not try to change the situation yourself – if you suspect the presence of child trauma, then there is no place without the advice of a competent psychologist.
Poor relations between parents and / or with the child, unstable atmosphere in the family as a whole, unfavorable climate in kindergarten, school – problems that can affect memory.
It is important to identify memory problems in time and start fixing them. Independently or with the help of a psychologist-it is up to everyone, depending on the specific situation. If you see a bad atmosphere in the children’s team and realize that it is not in your power to influence it, perhaps you should think about changing schools/kindergartens.
The child needs rest.
And it is not always a change of activity.
Remember, this is a child. Games, walks, cartoons were not canceled.
Also, keep track of your daily routine and help you follow it. The ratio of sleep and wakefulness should be normal. The day mode must include rest and time for free games. At least an hour.
Loads are not for age or simply excessive
Various additional educational classes, clubs, etc – – this is fine, but remember the previous point.
It is important that the child does not lose interest in everything because of the heavy workload.
“How do I link nutrition and memory problems?”, some of you will ask. The fact is that along with food, the body gets a number of necessary substances, microelements for normal development.
The lack of vitamins (special attention should be paid to iodine) and useful components can seriously damage the brain and cause problems, including memory.
Lack of interest
Imagine, your child may not be interested in what you think is very important and necessary.
And remember what happens in these classes, he will not consider it necessary, this is a kind of filter (remember how much information you remember in boring lessons for you).
Let them choose what they want to do. And if a “boring” subject is necessary, you need to think about how to interest your child in it.
Unfortunately, this reason should not be forgotten. Therefore, first of all, if you are concerned that the child remembers something poorly, especially if memory problems appear abruptly, contact a neurologist to identify and exclude certain health issues.
How to understand that a child has a bad memory – 3 signs
They are not universal, but this is what people pay attention to most often:
Reduced academic performance and problems with preparing homework (if the child is in school)
Can’t describe an event that happened to him relatively recently (for children older than 4-5 years), tell about something very significant
Forgets important moments from everyday life, does not remember unconditional and explicit things
How to develop a child’s memory?
Well, now the most important thing. What should I do with all this?
Parents went to the doctor, realized that the child has no physiological pathologies. The first step was successfully completed, but it is not very clear how to proceed.
5 steps to memory development:
Don’t confuse poor memory with temporary distraction.
Everyone is prone to the latter at one time or another, especially when loading and assimilating large amounts of information.
In this case, rest will decide everything.
Train your child’s memory.
By the way, it is important to understand what type of memory your child has – visual, auditory or kinesthetic.
Of course, you need to develop each of them, but it is desirable to know which one to focus on. You can determine the type of memorization on the diagnostics page.
Memory training exercises – ways to solve problems:
The game is “remember!”- you lay out on the table several items that are similar in appearance, the child looks at them and tries to remember, then-closes his eyes. One or more items disappear, the child remembers what it was.
A retelling of the books and cartoons
I saw something interesting – tell me what! This is a way to show that Chad’s interests are important to you with a great way to train!
Learning poems, songs, and dances.
Moreover, there is a development of different types of memory– visual, muscular, auditory. It is worth training each of these types.
As a result, arrange a talent night! This idea will appeal to your child, and if parents take an active part in it, it will be another good childhood memory!
Walking in the fresh air is not a whim, but a necessity. The brain must get enough oxygen to function properly. And simple airings in the room do not achieve this.
Active walking is a sport and a good mood.
A healthy lifestyle improves memory and solves many problems-proven!
Do not forget about proper nutrition and sleep.
This also applies to a healthy lifestyle. Reduce your intake of sugar, fat, smoked and fried foods.
Remember about the necessary amount of vitamins and nutrients.
The sleep required for a child is at least 8 hours a day.
Communicate as much as possible.
Let him tell you what interesting things happened to him today, talk about his feelings and emotions – all this will help improve your memory and learn to build good stories.