Emotions and feelings of teenagers
Today we will talk about the role that emotion plays in the lives of teenagers.
What you need to know about emotions
Starting the conversation, it is worth saying that there are 2 closely related Sciences-psychology and biology. Emotions are one of the types of mental processes that reflect a person’s attitude to themselves and to the world around them.
It is a person’s experience of anything at any given time. The strength of the experience depends on how significant the situation is for the person.
But in addition to the experience, the mental component, there is a biological component – certain physiological changes-that occur in the body in parallel to the experience
Feelings are a very important part of each of us.
They help you understand your true desires and know yourself. By microemotions of the face, you can determine, for example, whether a person is lying or not.
By the way, do you know that there are no “bad” and “good” emotions? Psychologists do not use this classification.
They can be positive or negative. But each of them is necessary and important for a person, performs a certain function. You can learn more about the classification in our article
Emotional reactions and the psyche of teenagers
Adolescence is a period of intense development and changes in the emotional sphere
In 11-14 years, especially characterized by sharp mood swings, excitability. In principle, all that they experience is very polar –everything is too good, then bad…
It is important to pay attention to children’s problems, help them solve them, and treat a child of this age with understanding.
After 14 years, young people continue to explore themselves and the world, but their emotional state gradually becomes calmer.
New events do not bring such a storm of feelings as before. They are better at managing themselves.
In General, in adolescence, a General emotional orientation is formed, so it is now worth taking time to develop this area.
What should the parents of an overly emotional teenager do?
First, don’t panic. And don’t try to change it right away, here and now. At least, because it doesn’t work that way.
5 tips from psychologists how to help a teenager:
Here’s why it’s really important. Because if everything you want to know about your child is limited to just studying…
No wonder the teen doesn’t make much contact.
In the case of high emotions, conversations are especially important.
At each “exit from yourself”, give the opportunity to calm down, and then-speak. And, calming the child, do not feel sorry, but listen to him and everything youwith him. Not in the spirit of “don’t worry, my Golden, everyone around you is bad, you are the only good”, in any case.
Teach them to be aware of what is happening and to solve their problems through communication, not by shouting.
Don’t forbid showing emotions
You have no idea how bad this is for the unborn child. Children who were not allowed to Express their feelings by their parents grow up to be very secretive adults who then suffer all their lives from the fact that they cannot allow their emotions to come out.
Hidden emotional reactions are a common cause of psychosomatic diseases.
Speaking about the expression of feelings, you can not apply
To the gender of the child – most often it is in the direction of boys – “why are you crying like a girl?”.
By age – “so big, and you cry!”.
To feelings that are now “not at the right time” to experience – ” don’t cry, it doesn’t hurt at all!”- the question is, how did you know if he was hurt or not?
Teach the expression of emotions
Stop and consciously talk about what is happening now. Understand who and why this or that feeling is directed at. For example, say: I’m angry because you promised me to go to the movies, and did not do it, instead of shouting, crying and resentment.
It is also worth learning ways to vent energy and negative feelings. Movement and sports, creative activities, and art therapy are good for everyone. You need to find your own way.
Take care of yourself
The way you behave in the presence of a child, very much affects it. And if you scream, you constantly hear insults, do not be surprised if in the future you will hear the same from a child.
The point is that parents should not be shown how they feel. We need to talk about this correctly.
Talk to teenagers
This advice may seem strange to some. “Well, I ask him how things are going, how are school grades, good morning and good night, too. He answers “normally” and the dialogue ends there. What else do you want from me?!»
Develop emotional intelligence
Both your own and your child’s.
Look at each emotional outburst not from the point of view of the problem, but from the point of view of the next opportunity for development.
Emotional intelligence and teenagers
Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize other people’s feelings and manage your own
Possession helps you better establish contacts with other people in your life, understand your feelings, ask for help correctly, and be able to say “no”, support and understand others.
Now this skill is more relevant than ever – it is not only your own psychological comfort, but also a big plus for almost any profession.
No wonder emotional intelligence is called the most important skill of the 21st century and is present in almost all lists of employers ‘ requirements for employees.
Despite this, very few people have the ability to recognize and name what they are feeling right now.
If emotional intelligence is developed in both parents and children, can you imagine how much this strengthens the connection between them and what new level communication can reach?
Programs for children and parents at the K. O. T. training center
The K. O. T. training center offers special free seminars for parents-classes where professional psychologists help to understand the problems of raising children and answer questions from parents. One of the important topics is emotional intelligence. Choose a suitable date and time and sign up for the workshop!
The “Lord of emotions” course for children and teenagers will help you learn to Express negative feelings without offending others, better understand yourself and control your behavior. As a result of the course, participants become more emotionally stable.
In principle, psychology does not divide the world into strictly black and white. And emotions are no exception. They are loyal helpers with whom you should learn to find a common language.